Seduction Blog

The Fashion of the Pickup Artist Pt.2

Wed, 29 Oct 2008 23:05:51 -0400

(continued from part 1)

There was about a couple of times that I did the
peacocking. I did that to see if it worked because I heard
that other guys were doing it.

I felt ridiculous when I went out and was totally
incongruent with my personality.

Women pay attention to fashion and like a well-dressed man,
as we all know.

I noticed that it was in my workout clothes or something
really basic - like jeans and a tanktop that some of my best
pickups occurred.

I’d see muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or
super-tight shirts at the club, and women definitely did not
respond well to this.

This make me think… that maybe this is not on how much
the clothes cost or how flashy they are…

Maybe there’s something else aside from that.

Actually, there are two things going on, and you must
manage, or balance these two things.

The first thing is, never seek approval from women. You are
totally toast, if a woman can tell you that you are trying
to impress her or make her like you.

So if you come like you got dressed with a purpose of
getting women’s attention, they’ll see you coming a mile a
way and put up their defenses.

You DON’T WANT to look like a pick up artist.

It’s better to dress modestly, and not put too much thought
into it.

However, you don’t want to look sloppy. You want to present
yourself in the best way you can.

This gets back to self-expression.

You already have a sense what kind of man you are, what
your “scene” is, what you think is cool.

Don’t change that.

Instead, develop it, with these simple tweaks.

Wear colors that appeal to your skin tone and hair color.
This isn’t rocket science. Go to an upscale men’s clothing
store, and ask someone about this. Or look online.

Next is to make sure that your clothes are clean, wrinkle
free and reasonably updated. A woman will not worry about
bringing you around her friends.

Most of all, be sure that your clothes fits well, they
BRING OUT YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.

Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your
shoulders.

Wear pants that make your legs look long and thin.

Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.

Clean up yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a
respectable haircut. Figure out what looks great for if you
shave or not to shave, and take it all the way.

One other piece…

Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look
of a small decoration that says, “yeah, I can fuck.”

Make out for your intuition with this one. I don’t want to
say too much because that’s a whole other topic.

Fashion For The Pickup Artist Pt. 1

Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:20:02 -0400

I am NOT the most fashionable guy in the world.

I usually let my girlfriend pick out clothes for me - not for MY benefit..

… but so that she doesn’t feel embarrassed when we go out in public together!

If I were the one to pick my clothes, I’d rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.

I can absolutely appreciate the aspect of design and style of fashion. When I looked at the able-bodied dressed woman, her outfits is like of art, and I dig that.

But when a man is “too stylish” I kinda lose respect for him.

Don’t get me wrong, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a fundamental part of masculine expression.

But some guys take this so much.

Case in point, the obsession with “peacocking” in the pickup Community for the past several years.

When I hear this term it makes me cringe.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

Let me explain what is “peacocking,” in case you’re not familiar.

A while ago, there was an emergence of routine-based “game,” relying heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.

The main reason for this is that I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and saying jokes and routines that other guys came up with JUST FELT WRONG.

On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and game-playing was to eventually get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they’d think you were cooler than them.

Think about the layers in the dating approach. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) seek approval (as if women has an authority on what makes man a man)

b) hide the fact that you’re seeking approval

c) play games with women so that they feel insecure and try to seek your approval

YUCK

“Peacock,” is one of the main techniques of this approach as to dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would “notice” you and want to talk to you.

Now there’s nothing wrong with wearing a nice watch, or a necklace that has some personal meaning.

I don’t want women to like me because of that.

I’m pretty sure a lot of men has seen this approach on TV shows, straining to make sense out of this hare-brained “technique.”

I’ve personally encountered students of other pickup schools, and felt sad because these poor guys were not only nervous, clumsy, misdirected…they looked RETARDED.

So I’d like to set a record when it comes to fashion and meeting girls.

There are only few things that you need to focus when it comes to your appearance.

After you get this stuff handled, you should put it out of your mind, and not wait for women to notice you before you TAKE ACTION.

Before I go on, I have to reveal a secret.

(To be Continued in Part 2)

Phone and Text Game

Mon, 15 Sep 2008 04:48:07 -0400

Phone and Text Game

Ways To Improve Your Storytelling

Sun, 07 Sep 2008 22:37:48 -0400

Okay guys, I know you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful.

Today we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

In “Part I” we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically. And there were two things I asked of you

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your personality that you want people to know about you.

We are going to start out working with these things.

For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

To start with, take out the list of your 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas eliminating the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people.

Reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

After reflecting on the 5 solid ideas, we are going to just concentrate on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

You may also ask your friends about which story topics they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I have anticipated also that there were some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

As I said before I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I am going to try to debunk all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)

“So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”

I know, it’s an annoying story… but we can turn this into something awesome.

First we need to understand the Okay guys, this is “Part II” of the storytelling newsletter.

In “Part I” we covered why storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically.

Now that you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

In “Part I” there were two things I asked of you

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

We are going to start out working with these things.

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, cross off ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were “you kind of had to be there” stories.

Now that you got 5 solid ideas down we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

To narrow it down, reflect on these 5 stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection too, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience.

For now, your main demographic with these stories is women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story subjects they would be more interested in hearing to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I’m sure there were still some of you out there that were to modest to come up with 10 ideas and only got around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)

“So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”

Okay, pretty annoying story…I know, but we can turn this into something awesome.

First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

The first component, is “The Hook Question”

The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved.

You use the hook question to captivate the group and the hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story.

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

There are two different types of hook questions.

An open ended hook question and a yes or no hook question.

I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be “How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?”

A possible yes or no hook question would be “Have you ever been to club voodoo?”

So let’s add this to the story… (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)

I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just can’t get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo…(rest of story)

Now that you have the hook question down, we are going to rewrite our stories to demonstrate aspects of identity because the next step is to demonstrate personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:

I am a musician
I am a very social person
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality…

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can’t to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it’s over. It can be one line or much more…

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy’s part and I don’t want to associate myself with friends like that. Also…a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining…after all…it’s a “STORY”

So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway…my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table…and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know…that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened…it was full…so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again…I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.

HOWEVER….there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

The first and most important is creating check in points.

Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

Examples are “That ever happen to you?” “Don’t you hate when that happens?” “You know what I mean?”

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. “Kind of like that over there” “Reminds me of her (point to person).”

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won’t need one near the end.

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

An example in a passage of my story would be:

“Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing….kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar).”

You don’t always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.

The first component, is “The Hook Question”. And there are two different types of hook questions:
1. open ended hook question and
2. a yes or no hook question.

Now the object of the hook question is to captivate the attention of the group making sure everyone in you are telling the story gets involved.

The hook question is the line you deliver to introduce your story.

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

For the two different types of hook questions I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

Using my story lets have an example for the two different hook questions:

For open ended hook question would be “How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?”

For a yes or no hook question would be “Have you ever been to club voodoo?”

Now that you have the idea you can now have your own hook question to add for your example stories.

I like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just can’t get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo…(rest of story)

The next component is to demonstrate personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:

I am a very social person
I am interested in video and photography
I am a musician
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality…

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can’t to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

The last component of story is the punch line. A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it’s over. It can be one line or much more…

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy’s part and I don’t want to associate myself with friends like that. Also…a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining…after all…it’s a “STORY”

So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway…my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table…and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know…that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened…it was full…so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again…I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

Now if you’ll start using these three steps to your stories, you will surely gonna got some great stuff on your hands.

BUT WAIT ….There is still a few more sprinkles that I want to share with you and you will add this to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of a successful storyteller.

The first and most important is creating check in points.

Check in points are mini questions or lines you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

Examples are “That ever happen to you?” “Don’t you hate when that happens?” “You know what I mean?”

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. For example, “Kind of like that over there” “Reminds me of her (point to person).”

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won’t need one near the end.

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

An example in a passage of my story would be:

“Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing….kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar).”

You don’t always need a full response with your check in points. A simple nod is would be okay when regaining focus of the audience.

Putting Your Story Into Action To Successfully Attract Women

Mon, 01 Sep 2008 22:34:28 -0400

Hey guys, this is now the “Part II” of the storytelling newsletter.

I know you are all excited because we will be putting it into action. And from this you will know and understand why it is so powerful.

As a review, in “Part I” we have learned the importance of storytelling and the things we need to do in order to improve your game vastly.

And there are two things I asked of you in the first newsletter.

One was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and the other was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

So take out those and we are going to start out with this using our own epic.

First lets take out the 7-10 story ideas and cut them down to 5 solid ideas, just remove the ones that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were “you kind of had to be there” stories.

Reflect to that 5 solid stories of yours and then focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately. Giving focus to the ones that have the most emotional connection to you and the ones that are captivating and interesting with other people wherein in can entertained.

For now, your main target with these stories are women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also feel free to ask your friends about which story topics they find more interested in hearing, so that to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

And of course I’m sure there were still some of you out that have list about 7-10 and only got around three, so I guess it will make your job easier now.

I said I would do this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

Now I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me the other day, so I figure this is a prime example)

“The other day I went out with my friends at the club voodoo and I am having a good time roaming around and making some new friends. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don’t want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home.”

“That is totally an annoying story!”… Yeah I know it is, but we can turn this into something awesome.

First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

1. “The Hook Question”

The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved. In using the hook question we are captivating the listener through how we deliver the hooked question to introduce your story.

When using the hook question make sure you have the attention of EVERYONE in the group before you start going into the story, if one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

Make eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

There are two different types of hook questions.

1. An open ended hook question ; and

2. A yes or no hook question.

I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, and a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

So a possible examples of these hook question for my story are:

Open ended hook question - “How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?”

Yes or No hook question - “Have you ever been to club voodoo?”

So let’s add this to the story… (Find a hook question for your example stories as well) For my story I’d like open ended hook questions more so to start my story in the interaction I would say

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just can’t get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo…(rest of story)

2 Conveying your personality

It is the second component where it demonstrate your identity and personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:

I am a musician
I am a very social person
I have a high and fun energy
I have a good sense of humor
I am interested in video and photography

Now you want to try to at least fit 3 of your 5 things into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

You should always have tension build up to excitement or your audience will have a feeling of lack of resolution but that is the last component of a story that I will get into shortly.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality…

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can’t to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I keep trying to away from him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

3. Punch Line

Punch Line is the last component of a story. It is often used for humor and to ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it’s over. It can be one line or much more…

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

To successfully deliver the punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy’s part and I don’t want to associate myself with friends like that. Also…a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong with changing up some incidents if it makes things more entertaining…after all…it’s a “STORY”

So the updated story with the new punch line goes this ways:

Me: “Hey guys…how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!”

Group: “blah blah”

Me: “Yeah that’s interesting so check this out…the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my “group” and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won’t back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito…with a really bad taste in clothing…you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway…my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table…and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know…that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened…it was full…so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!……………….the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn’t see him again…I don’t know what the big deal is…I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)
Now if you have done these three steps to your stories, you got some great stuff on your hands.

HOWEVER….there is still a few more sprinkles you are going to want to add to your story someday.

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

The first and most important is creating “Check in points”.

Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

Examples are “That ever happen to you?” “Don’t you hate when that happens?” “You know what I mean?”

Just make sure it’s not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. “Kind of like that over there” “Reminds me of her (point to person).”

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won’t need one near the end.

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

An example in a passage of my story would be:
“Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing….kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar).”

You don’t always need a full response with your check in points. A nod is perfectly okay when regaining focus of the audience.
Applying those component in right way can make your story of great success. So that’s it for now.. and watch for the next newsletter

Applying Sexual Tension To A Woman

Fri, 29 Aug 2008 04:00:37 -0400

One of the dominant thing in an interaction with a woman is sexual tension.

Sexual tension is the energy or charge of an interaction. Its application is subtle but powerful and effective.

There are many different concepts of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community.

Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sexual tension because it is grounded in real sexual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman.

Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy”, “you hot” to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman’s mind.

Controlled Sexual Arousal State

Sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest.

In a right time, I create sexual tension by focusing my sexual desire on my woman, but not doing any overt sexual advances. I maintain a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, directing her mind toward sexual imagination. My state is transferred to her, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.

How to have a controlled arousal state

It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)

The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to women.

Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.
Creating Tension

For the “getting turned on” part, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, regular sex.

You already know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain.

There are two reasons why a sexually aroused state is so important. First, women love sex. A sexual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.

The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?

Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.

How do you feel around someone when they are nervous?

You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sexually aroused, but you weren’t doing anything sexual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.

State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.

The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.

These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.

If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.

That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”

Another key point about verbalizing sexual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading to sex. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.

Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting?

True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.

But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.

Once you have mastered that concept, you’re well on your way.

How to Let a Woman Know that You are for Real

Tue, 26 Aug 2008 22:57:42 -0400

Does your a woman know that the vibe you’re showing to her is the real you?

Or does your woman know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

Credibility is the answer to these.

There are lots of guys think that they don’t have enough value, 90% of it, it’s credibility they lack. In fact, most of the tactics used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe. (and anyone who’s anyone KNOWS I don’t even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

“Player vibe” is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

Able to create credibility is one of the key components to sleeping with a girl quickly.

Another component is sexual tension.

And as a pick-up student, you know that there are women that needs sexual tension to sleep with a guy and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction

Safety: The basic and fundamental level of credibility in which you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be spending a night and sleep with you.

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or having a continued affair with you.

Direction: You need to show direction in order that a woman will change her existing life plans or to leave her current boyfriend and be with you.

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->

We have to realize that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have have your own social programming. We all do.

These differences is not necessarily a bad thing. On the other hand, it’s very useful in our dealing with women.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman’s behaviors come from her social programming, we can’t expect her to realize that.

Men have instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who gives a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.

Woman’s programming is her reality and literally her world.

And the credibility is about showing you understand her world.

HERE’S AN EXAMPLE ->

You are comfortably warm sitting in a chair inside your bedroom.

And then a friend of you came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked to sit on where you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner of your room.

You would probably feel mad with him. You might even think he’s insane.

He’s showing you that he’s not seeing the same reality as you. He’s “in his own world”.

Because he has shown you that he doesn’t understand and respect your world - you probably wouldn’t connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

And this is how women feel when you don’t demonstrate credibility.

If a woman thinks that it’s a wrong thing for a guy to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO a believe that it’s not good for a guy to kiss and tell.

And you can get really good at this.

The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility vastly.

Try the three levels of credibility in this way:

Safety - It’s safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - See the same things in your woman’s world. Having same perceptions, values, and goals.
Direction - You have the ability to modify and change her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

It’s because guys naturally understands a certain type of woman’s worldview.

But as you get good, you’ll start to be able to match ANY woman’s worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

At first remember the things she said in the past, and then recall it after she has forgotten what she said.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter your woman’s world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That’s when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman’s reality so well, she doesn’t just think he’s perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She will thinks “He’s just like me!”

This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.

Once you get to this you’ll see your plan improving dramatically.

Showing Your Credibility to a Woman

Thu, 21 Aug 2008 22:18:07 -0400

How do you let a woman know that the the things you are doing to her is the real you?

Or does she have any idea that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

Well, the answer to the that questions is Credibility.

90% of most guys that think they don’t have enough value, lacks credibility. In fact, most of everything they used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

(and anyone who’s anyone KNOWS I don’t even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

“Player vibe” is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

One of the key components to sleeping with a woman quickly is able to create credibility.

Also another component is sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some girls need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

So let’s go deeper with it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1.    Safety
The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.

2.    Commonality
You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.

3.    Direction
You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.

SOCIAL PROGRAMMING

You have to understand that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have your own social programming. We all do.

It’s not really a bad thing. On the contrary, it’s very useful.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman’s behaviors come from her social programming, we can’t expect her to realize that.

If men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, its opposite to women, they have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around with her and able to raise children.

And this instinct is built by social programming.

A woman’s programming is her reality and literally that programming is her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

Now here’s a good example ->

Imagine you were comfortably sitting in a chair in your bedroom.

And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold. And wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch in where you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.

You would feel pretty uncomfortable with him. You might even think he’s crazy.

He’s showing you that he’s not seeing the same reality as you. He’s “in his own world”.

I bet you wouldn’t trust a guy like that.

Because he has shown you that he doesn’t understand your world, and doesn’t respect your world - you probably wouldn’t connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

This is how women feel when you don’t demonstrate credibility.

If she thinks that it’s a bad thing for a guy to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it’s bad for a guy to kiss and tell.

Having the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility dramatically.

You can think of the three levels in this manner:

Safety - It’s safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain type of a woman.

It’s because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.

But as you get good, you’ll start to be able to match ANY woman’s worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

The first thing for you to do is remembering things she’s said in the past, and then repeating it after she has forgotten she’s said anything.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Sooner or later, it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That’s when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman’s reality so well, she doesn’t just think he’s perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She thinks “He’s just like me!”

This is really the basic thing yet so many people mess it up.

But once you do it correctly you’ll watch your game improve greatly.

Mehow

Wed, 30 Jul 2008 21:25:15 -0400

Mehow

Dating Tips for Creating Relationships

Tue, 29 Jul 2008 02:47:00 -0400

When I started to get good, and could escalate quickly with any girl, I remember those girls I slept with but couldn’t keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.

But I had my head up my ass.

…maybe that’s a little rude.

But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I’ve never fully recovered. But I’ve stopped trying to recover. And that’s what’s made me move past this “proving myself” thing.

I’ve accepted who I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But…

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I’m into?

It’s all are the same.

What it really need is self-acceptance.

If you don’t accept yourself, women won’t accept you also.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don’t like yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because if you don’t like yourself, you can’t really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people “I don’t care what anyone thinks of me!”

Based on my experience, almost all DON’T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I’m not excepted from them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn’t end after your opener, after a few dates, after “making love.” It never ends that way.

Because it is you.

You are not divided from your game.

The “game” is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.

Maybe you think “But I’m nervous and insecure and awkward.” I don’t agree. That’s not you.

That is the vague you.

That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn’t keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don’t know what you want, you can’t shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it’s not the woman’s fault. She’s just doing what she’s told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she’s on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she’s lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I’ve developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

Pickup Artist Phone Game: NoFlakes...

Thu, 24 Jul 2008 02:53:04 -0400

Pickup Artist Phone Game: NoFlakes System

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Pickup Artist Phone Game: NoFlakes System

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 03:18:00 -0400

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Dating Tips for Men: Time Management

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 03:41:08 -0400

Dating can be your best friend.

…OR your big enemy.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren’t physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

I’ve personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling…now

there’s nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it’s a woman’s NATURE to get the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there’s a

lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are “givers.”

They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”

Now I know it wasn’t about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”

It was probably something like “good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”

I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren’t that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.

Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.

It’s not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you’ve been doing them for years.

Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There’s a syndrome that I call a “doofus dad” syndrome. There’s another societal factor going on. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the “dad” or “boyfriend” or “husband” is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are “better,” and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here’s the thing - you won’t be present for most of that time, if you are giving a woman too much time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your “half-assed” attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I’m only giving a smaller amounts of my time.

Aside from making our time better, this creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my girlfriends can’t get enough of me - in fact, I don’t GIVE THEM “enough.”

Ask you know, “enough” would mean, “overexposure” to me, and women can’t be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don’t recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl - and don’t spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that you are able to meet a lot of women, which I’ll have to cover in another newsletter.

It’s not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and “putting up with” girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

Remember that women aren’t property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

It doesn’t mean that you can “keep” the women if you invest all your time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being honest with the amount of time you are willing give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It’s either a girl will try to make you feel guilty, or you will feel it on your own. This is ok, it just means you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will usually from the social norm.

If you are in the habit of adopting the values that others try to impose onto you, you will probably experience some tension, guilt, discomfort, even loneliness at first.

That’s why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It’s all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real ‘you’ emerge from within.

And there’s no need for us to impose our goals onto you. Given the proper guidance, I know you are able to do that for yourself.

Vin

Dating Tips: Attracting a "10

Sun, 13 Jul 2008 21:45:09 -0400

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a 10, then I think you’ll find this letter very interesting.

But first off, let go waaay back…

When I was in high school, there was this girl in my class who was perfect.

She was intelligent, cool, and so beautiful that it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn’t stop my eyes looking)…

She was friendly to everyone and was one of the popular kids in school.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I wanted to ask her to senior prom so badly…but I chickened out at the last minute.

It was a few years later that I realized that the girl had a crushed on me all the senior year.

I’ve talked to a lot of guys and this experience seems pretty common, there was this ONE SPECIAL GIRL who you crushed on from afar, or you missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart…

Ah, the unreachable “10,” a perfect woman that every men dream but seems hard to attain.

I have a lot to say about the concept of “10’s,” In deeper sense they are another “breed” of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your “perfect girl.”

First of all, the concept of a “10” is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more “valuable” just because she looks nicer than other women.

The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only true “10”.

Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10’s, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because almost all men do that.

The girl knows what you are about and she sees you as a shallow guy.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another “level” of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds of women.

Like I said, you shouldn’t treat them “differently.”

Let me clarify.

You shouldn’t treat a woman BETTER than the other women. But there are things that you need to know.

First, she is sick of guys chasing her for her looks alone.

She wants to be appreciated for her personality more than anything else.

Now for your own sake I’m going to give you a heads up.

There are two types of “10’s.”

Low self-esteem and high self-esteem.

The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10’s. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn’t EARN that attention.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sounds not good but I call it like it is.

These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back.

Anything.

(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Meanwhile, the high self-esteem 10’s are women that have had a taste of the elite - early from the start they realized that high levels of society were attainable to them, they exert an effort be intelligent, successful and make the most of their lives.

These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.

Usually HSE 10’s are intellegent, have good attitudes, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I’ve dated didn’t even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

And here’s another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

It is because they have high standards for themselves, and this makes most men either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it’s rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here’s the good news. These women are the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being the best man you can be, being a “male 10.”

You will notice an interesting thing if you start to apply the Attraction Code.

You’ll get odd responses from less attractive women - they will occasionally be rude to you because they know they’re not on your level - it’s what I call the Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some women will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently…you’ll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their “level.”

She thinks to herself, “finally, a guy who can hang with me; he’s confident and treats me like a real person. And he’s the only guy who’s actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car.”

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you’ll also enjoy plenty of “adventures” with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are bunch of 10’s out there waiting for you.

Don’t spend another year missing something that you could’ve been enjoying right now.

Vin

Facts about Storytelling

Mon, 07 Jul 2008 01:52:22 -0400

I will be sharing with you today a very important and powerful subject when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of a women and anyone in your life.

This subject is no other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.

But Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling. I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth one: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.

Even if the women knows that the story is true, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in “Role Playing” and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in “Role Play Conversations” raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling > > >

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

Why is storytelling important > > >

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:

* Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

* Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

* Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

* You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like “Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you).”

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story. We are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be neglect. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major yet entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

I have already anticipated that there are going to be people that would say they have no interesting stories. This is absolutely not the true; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Don’t be modest; even if it’s a silly story write it down. You can’t be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can’t think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don’t even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise 2: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to construct a powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

So, just keep an eye for the next letter and get ready to really take storytelling to the on the action.

Julian Foxx

Tue, 01 Jul 2008 22:10:00 -0400

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Useful Mindsets for Disarming Male Competition

Mon, 23 Jun 2008 23:31:00 -0400

Have you avoided approaching a girl just because she is talking to another guy?

Or maybe you saw a group of girls with one or two guys with them and you ASSUMED the guys were cooler than you so you avoided approaching because you feared embarrassment.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with women who were with other guys.

Most guys when they saw the girl being with another guy, they think it is her boyfriend.

This isn’t a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially in a bar - it’s a social setting where people meet other people. Plus - she’s not his “slave” - she’s a human being, not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often a woman who is “with” a guy and this can draw out the guy’s jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The second reason why guys don’t approach woman who is “with” a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, instantly assuming that the “other guy” is stronger, cooler, or somehow more powerful.

This is founded in an ancient survival strategy that has been hardwired into the human brain.

It’s often hard to tell who the more “dominant” human is in any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn’t know how dominant the other guy is.

He doesn’t know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

To assumed that the guy is a threat is the safest way to play. Because guys that are too bold may have won a few confrontations, but it will take them a single mistake that can end up their game.

And then their genes were eliminated from “race” so to speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid women unnecessarily because they are making false assumptions.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to another guy in the bar or club, she’s not WITH him.

They JUST MET!

For many instances I’ve approached a girl with a guy thinking it was her boyfriend, then only to find out that he was just a random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets to those times that I’ve missed so many opportunities talking to a woman just because I saw her with another guy. And this brings me to my first point:

YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO HER. DON’T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are. Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So use your head - just don’t limit your options by making false assumptions.

The idea that the other man can be more “dominant” that you are is the next important thing that I want to talk about.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those same power are still existing today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his own - if you’re reading this, you probably have an access to your needs like food. You’re all set.

Plus, it’s illegal to just beat people up. My point is, physical strength is pretty much irrelevant in the modern world.

You’ll always end up losing if you attack another person because the police always win.

You are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON! if you are thinking about it.

Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

You are going to look back on all the things you did and didn’t do, when the time comes that you’re on your deathbed. How painful it is to say “I haven’t approached that girl because I was scared of another guy,” or “I could have enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy.”

I don’t want to happen that to you.

So let’s understand it deeply. Seeing the other guy as more dominant means you don’t really understand dominance.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when you’re concerned with who is more dominant. There’s a better focus.

To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. And dominant men don’t think about who is dominant. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant between the two of you.

It’s proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn’t even know the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, he’s a friend of ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

It’s seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating - normally they will bring a guy that is more of a protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it will be a fair game because it means that he’s NOT with the other girls.

If you are concerned with who’s the alpha male, then you are NOT the alpha male by definition. As a matter of fact, it’s questionable whether alpha males truly exist in the modern era.

Avoid some assumption, just get your focus in a USEFUL place, and don’t allow some random dude to stop you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!

IN10SE

Wed, 18 Jun 2008 23:00:59 -0400

IN10SE :

If anyone hasn’t heard of the October Man Sequence, it’s a supposedly “dangerously effective” NLP sequence that was talked about in “The Game” and the product “October Man Sequence” was created by In10se (Twotimer in The Game), a personal friend of mine.